This is my second post. Continue with the previous post tiny words... ...
Sometimes, people usually pin-points at others. I'm neutral. I side neither of the three parties. But I had a clear view of what had gone wrong. But the people involved don't really realise the greatest mistake. I wonder why people don't put themselves in one anothers' shoes? So that they will understand how the other parties feel?
I feel like doing something to better the situation. But I don't want to get myself involved into the situation. It will worsen everything. I am not a good conflict manager or peace trooper.
What is self reflection? Not staring at the mirror and admiring how on the own looks... Neither staring at the reflection in the clear water of toilet bowl... Well, one should calm down and relax and forget about others' mistakes. One should recalled the incident and wonder what mistake she had done and change the attitude. Not pushing all the blame to others thinking that she is right all along. No one is perfect! If everyone is perfect, the world shall be peace. And self reflection is thinking through what went wrong with herself, but not waiting others to tell her directly to her face. Being too frank will hurt others. She may find someone to guide her along her reflection.
Firstly, what does a good leader mean?
Well, a good leader shouldn't be demanding or always scold people. Well, respect the others' rights. Put herself in the others' shoes. Think how they feel before she makes her move. Not all the people will understand her purpose. Scolding everybody all the times is not a right way to make the team improve. At the end of the day, people won't apprecaite it and condem her. They would think that she is unreasonable and disliked her. She will gain no respect from them.
A good leader should not climb on top of her own leader's head. A good leader must show a good example to her teamates. She must respect her leader's decision, be it she likes it or not, she should not show her objection in front of her teamates. She should also respect people who are senior to her even if they do not have any position. No matter what, they are still older than her. Respecting the others is very important.
A good leader should not think highly upon herself. Humility is very important. Others' rights and decision should be respected. Her authorities should not be abused. When people disobey her, she should think through what had gone wrong? Is her method of commanding wrong? Do the others like her idea? She should accept the feedback from the teamates. She should learn how to accept help from the others.
A good leader must be understanding and compassionate -- showering the teamates with affection, care and concern. Not being too fierce. A good leader should not scold her teamates immediately if she sees someone not progressing well. She must approach her teamates in a caring tone. But must truly from her heart. She shouldn't be sarcastic when people make mistakes. Hey, I make mistakes too, I doubt you don't!
A good leader must be firm but not in those demanding tone. People don't like it. It hurts their ears. Be firm so that people wouldn't climb on top of her. Being strict is important but must be flexible sometimes. At least people would not feel tensed up.
A good leader must take initiative and be responsible. She should not push all the blames on her teamates. She should identify the problem and get the right person to solve it.
A good leader must be patient. Even though her skill is good and more experienced than the others, she should guide the others patiently. Not everyone is fast learner.
A good leader must be motivating, convincing and enthusiastic. These would influence the others to be passionate with their mission. Encourage them to perservere when they attempt to give up.
All those elements mentioned are essentials of a good leader. At the end of the day, the teamates will respect her and obey her. There would not be any hatred. Everyone would be more cooperative and passionate. Considering about others' feelings is important!
Have I missed out anything? Are those mentioned agreeable? Feedback please!
